"This life therefore, is not godliness but the process of becoming godly, not health but getting well, not being but becoming, not rest but exercise. We are not now what we shall be, but we are on the way. The process is not yet finished, but it is actively going on. This is not the goal, but it is the right road. At present, everything does not gleam and sparkle, but everything is being cleansed." --Martin Luther

Friday, June 25, 2010

life with kids...

We are in a stage of life now where we have the first teenager down to a newborn baby again (soon). What a world in front of our own eyes! The whole slew of life’s (children’s) issues that we can be dealing about at any one time is amazing. Someone told us we are our own children’s ministry! We SOOOO need wisdom and discernment for parenting!
On any given day we deal with the usual: lying, taking food (this is actually a very big issue for a couple of the kids), tattling, hitting, taking toys from each other, eye-rolling, tears. But we also get the love; we get to see the sharing, the playing together, the helping and working together. It is a wide spectrum.
We also deal with a more than the usual. Well, maybe. I guess what feels unusual to us may be more normal than we know. We deal with a complete lack of desire to self-control. I think that is it anyway, I am not sure what else to call it. When we ask, did you know it was wrong, someone says yes. Did you know you would get it trouble? Again the answer is yes. Did you know you would have this consequence? Yes. Then why did you do it? Because I wanted to.
How do you even deal with that? What possible consequence can you give? They already know what the consequence is and they don’t seem to care-they are willing to take it without so much as a care in the world (for us-but believe me if someone is over they will put on the show!). Scolding does no good, talking about it does no good. There is no remorse, just I did it because I wanted to do it.
Maybe some of you have been there. I know it is a heart issue, something that needs prayer. But I sometimes think I am the one who needs the most prayer because I just HATE dealing with it over and over and over again.

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